Speak your heart for heaven’s sakes!

I simply love this one! You will never regret it for the rest of your life.  Yes, you WON”T! Don’t do things just to make someone happy for that moment unless it’s an emergency. On the other hand, you wouldn’t want that guilt, believe me! Speaking what’s in your heart will earn you respect with your partner.

Why would you want to say something else to someone that you love? Say it with kindness, patience, and love with a very — I repeat, ‘VERY’ soft tone FROM YOUR HEART, and it WILL BE APPRECIATED. Whenever you’re asked for your opinion, speak the truth even if it is going to upset that person. They will come around and would have been thinking, you didn’t lie and that you didn’t mind upsetting them just to tell them the truth!

This applies to everything. When you speak your heart, your partner will think that you’re not hiding anything from them.This will earn you a lot more credibility than you can possibly imagine. When your partner trusts you, your relationship will last longer and when you see this happening – you will change your views about whether to move on or move in.

TEDDY STODDARD & MRS. THOMPSON

As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. Now that was impossible, because there in the front row slumped in his seat, was a little boy named ‘Teddy Stoddard.’

Mrs.Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children – that his clothes were messy, and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant to others as he neglected himself. It got to the point where Mrs.Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X’s and then putting a big ‘F’ at the top of his papers. At the school where Mrs.Thompson taught, she was required to review each child’s past records and she’d put Teddy’s off until last moment. When she reviewed his file — she was in for a surprise!

Teddy’s first grade teacher wrote: “Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners. He’s such a joy to be around with.

His second grade teacher wrote: “Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and his life at home must be a struggle.”

His third grade teacher wrote: “His mother’s death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn’t show much interest, and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren’t taken.”

Teddy’s fourth grade teacher wrote: “Teddy is withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class.”

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper except for Teddy’s. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children’s laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was by putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, “Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to.” After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy and as she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her ‘favorites!’

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer…. The letter was signed: Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did!

And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson’s ear, “Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference.” Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, “Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn’t know how to teach until I met you.”

(For those of you that don’t know, Teddy Stoddard is the Doctor at Iowa Methodist in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

Warm someone’s heart today. . . pass this along by telling your loved ones and friends to come back and read this. I love this story so very much. Please try to make a difference in someone’s life today? tomorrow? But please don’t forget to do it. Thanks…

Please Note: This story was not written me, ‘Sajjid Manuel.’ It was only altered a bit. I don’t know who the author is who wrote this touching story. But since they said in the email I got, to pass this on, I posted it here because I wanted it to touch your life so very much.

The cord and the cordless

Keeping in touch is a great way to make sure your relationship stays fresh especially when two people are away from each other. Maintaining a distance unexpectedly or expectedly increases the desire to be with your partner.

And as I said previously, always keep the best part to yourself for the sake of your relationship. Never give of yourself completely because, when that mystery and suspense dies down; you’re no more exciting and adventurous to your partner.

Keep the mystery and suspense and be adventurous even later on in the relationship. If you want the relationship to stay alive and be magical – keep this going! Talking for hours when you’re both together and on the phone too is another great way of staying close.

Tell each other truly how you have been missing each other and how you long to be with each other. Talk about things both of you are interested in. Share your experiences with each other; this will help you develop understanding and trust when you are away from each other.

ARE YOU AN EMBARRASMENT?

Don’t say or do things to make each other uncomfortable in public or when you both are alone together. Try not to expose yourself or overdress when you go out with your partner. Your partner has already chosen you, so try not to overdress or wear clothes that expose you to the whole world.

DON’T to allow others to feast their eyes on your body or on you too much. This will make your partner feel uncomfortable when being with you. They may even feel odd going out with you every time due to this and may not even tell you about it and this will affect your relationship secretly. It is not possible to stop the world from looking at you whether you overdress, expose yourself or anything else.

But please your partner how much ever you can and make him or her feel comfortable with you. Dress for them and not the world and you will find their demands simple. If you feel that your partner is uncomfortable with your mannerisms or character, try to change your ways for them. There is no harm in doing the right thing to save your relationship as long as it is the right thing. Trust me, you will know it.

The odd places…

Don’t take your partner to places where you will be distanced from each other. This matters! A lot of people want to be ‘in’ with the crowd because they consider it to be fashionable and sexy. It gives them a feeling of security in the beginning – which is really an insecurity by the way.

Don’t make a display of your personal life. Respect  yourself.  In the long run, it will make you regret and give you a sense of insecurity about each other. This is supposed to be a very personal and romantic moment in your lives. You are supposed to strengthen your relationship and not weaken it.

After all, at the end of the day, who have you chosen to be with? Who are you going to be with when you rest your head on that pillow at night for your whole life? Who are you going to hold in your arms and sleep tight with and wake up with feeling all cozy the next morning? Why would you want to risk all that for a bit of fashion or whatever else you’re trying to prove? Is it really worth it?

Know your needs from your wants and sometimes you have to refrain from giving in to the wants. These wants can destroy you and your relationship. When you truly love, respect and care for each other, it will be easier to decide where to go and spend those cherishing moments! Location is everything.

WANDERING EYES!

Watch out for this no-brainer – you’re being noticed if you haven’t noticed. If you can’t keep your eyes to yourself, you aren’t satisfied with your partner. Face it. Your partner can feel it at times even when they don’t see you looking. Don’t take them for granted.

If you cannot control yourself, your relationship will obviously be at stake. Each action if not rectified can turn against the plans that you may have for your relationship. Think of your future. Not everything can be rectified always, but some things can. It varies from person to person. But if you really want your relationship to work? For heavens sake — BE FAITHFUL!

The irresistable

If you want your relationship to last a lifetime, refrain from too much kissing, cuddling, and making love. This will BOX the living daylights out of your relationship and it will suck you dry out of a lifetime of bliss! PLEASE CONTROL YOURSELVES and NEVER, I repeat, NEVER do too much of anything or you will find yourself wondering what went wrong and where.

What keeps your eyes and whatever else from wavering in the beginning is the chemistry. So preserve that magic and if you haven’t, try to see each other lesser until you get back those lost moments. Take a break if you have too, not to go and find someone else!?! But to enrich your physical and emotional needs.

LOOKING GOOD

Now I’m sure you’ve heared this before: in order to live a healthy long life and look great, you have to workout, break-up your meals; have a high fiber, and low calorie diet and sleep on time and be a positive thinker. This keeps your mind positive and your body energetic. Looking good becomes no more a strain.

This part of your life will continue to get better each day. It will happen automatically. Both of you have to be attracted to each other constantly at all times for you to be loving and faithful to each other. Working out together is one of those things that will help you encourage each other and have oneness of mind. A healthy lifestyle helps greatly in having a healthy mind. This will enable you and your partner to also workout problems together and keep your relationship almost trouble free!

Make up

Every woman must know why she uses make up. Let me tell you ladies something: it shows if the make up is for your partner or not. If you want your relationship to work for the best, be sensitive to your man’s feelings as your body language will be a dead give away.

Men aren’t ignorant of these things, so if it is for your man he will feel it and know it when you’re around him. There are some men who won’t say a word; but this may cause a strain in your relationship secretly. Yet again, there are some men who will express this emotion in an unpredictable way for the best or for the worst.

And I’m sure a woman wouldn’t want to rock the boat that she loves? Most women feel that they look much better with make up! This can be due to the lack of self-confidence in some. But to a man, it is something that does not exist in reality. It is nothing but a fantasy for him.

I’m sure that a woman would be more concerned about a man loving her for who she is and not her make up. What I’m trying to say here is: be careful of a man who is attracted to your make up rather than you. I’m not saying, ‘Don’t wear make-up.’ But, get acquainted with a man who is not easily impressed with your make up, but rather a man who is more concerned about who is wearing it?

FOCUSING ELSEWHERE ?

Never make your partner feel uncomfortable in the beginning of your relationship when you’re out on a date. You wouldn’t want to make them feel conscious about themselves!  When a person feels conscious, they lose confidence and may even doubt the reason why they are out with you, so make them feel comfortable at all times.

Try your BEST not to be over confident just because someone’s shy about you, and don’t ask pressing, personal and probing questions. Just enjoy the moments with your partner and take it as it comes. Suspense and mystery in a relationship heightens the thrill of being together.

Don’t plan anything like: when to meet the next time and where! Leave that evening without planning for the next date and see what happens!